Nothing prepares you for parenthood. Nothing prepares you for hearing about other children being mean to yours. When your child comes home from school and tells you that someone said “I don’t want to play with you” or even worse has pushed, shoved or hurt them in anyway, it is enough to completely shatter your heart into a million pieces.

You are their protector and yet you feel, as though, you failed them. The sad realization comes to fruition as you have to come to terms with the fact that you can’t always be there in person to protect them from harsh words, but you can always be there emotionally. Whether it is a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen to, it is so important to touch base with your children regularly and ask how things are going in school and with their peers.

It’s imperative that you maintain a rapport with your kids and allow them to feel safe and let themselves feel comfortable opening up to you. Remember that every child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Be patient, flexible, and consistent in your efforts to build a strong and open relationship with your kids.